In part one of this article, we
considered giving our minds an emotional spring clean to declutter ourselves
from the ‘emotional junk’ we pick up through the seasons of our lives. These can include issues around our unresolved issues (past or present),
negative emotions (e.g. fear, guilt, shame, unforgiveness, etc), unhealthy
mindsets, inner conflicts and much more.
This is a plague that affects the body of Christ just as
much as it affects the secular world. Somehow, many of us struggle with
work/life balance and often find ourselves on the verge of burnout. As you
probably know, in this state, you are of no use to yourself, others or God.
Hence, your first priority should be to take time out and nurture yourself back
to health. Below are some ideas on how to do this.
Spring is in the air and many of us take time out to spring clean our
homes, garages, etc to get rid of all the clutter and dirt we have accumulated
over the past seasons. But as you go about doing this, have you considered giving
your mind a spring clean too, to get rid of any emotional clutter and junk you
may have accumulated?
During our first Overcoming Emotional Baggage for WomenConference (2010), a conference aimed at
supporting women with troubled souls and discouraged hearts, I spoke on a topic titled, “When Life Hurts…What Next?”. The aim was to encourage women to start their
journey to restoration rather than continue to live with their
unresolved issues.
When you have been hurt
by others, how do you react? Like many, you might say, ‘I just move on’. But
the harsh reality for many is that they remain stuck. On the surface, they
might look OK, but underneath lies a heart scored with deep, oozing wounds.
In a bid to stop the
‘hurter’ or potential ‘hurters’ wounding us, we construct barriers around
ourselves. Then, when we look at life through the tinted lenses of our hurts,
trusting people – and even God – becomes a real issue, even when they pose no
threat to us. We bolt up the doors to our hearts and put up a sign that says:
‘No entry’.
Strange
question? Perhaps but could this be the reason why some of us are experiencing
a conundrum of modern syndromes/unexplained illnesses such as chronic fatigue, various
disorders (e.g. digestive, sleep, eating disorders), muscle aches/pains, etc?
In recent years, these have left many doctors baffled. More so, us Christians especially
as we fast, pray and bind the devil. But are we giving the enemy far too much
credit when in fact we should be looking closer to home?
After a while of people telling
you, “you are not good enough”, your confidence can get knocked, especially
when you start to hear it time and time again. You may find you start to second
guess yourself and self-doubt who you believe you are. But please be rest
assured that greatness lies within you. Just because others can't see it or
fail to appreciate it has nothing to do with the matter.