Quick Tips To Promoting Your Emotional Wellbeing

1. Strive to make the following a reality in your life: Equilibrium, Harmony, Peace, Contentment, Pace, Time management.

 2. Try to avoid triggers that may affect your wellbeing e.g. Stress, pressure, over committing yourself, too much going on at the same time.

Quick Tips To Ditching Your Baggage

1. Uncover your ‘emotional baggage’ e.g. unresolved issues, negative emotions, unhealthy or inaccurate mindsets, etc.


2. Take action to bring about your emotional restoration and wellbeing:
 • God-help: Ask God to help you on your journey. Trust me, you will need His help to uncover, deal with any issues and embark your journey to wholeness.

Get Real With Yourself And Avoid Emotional Traps!

Want to avoid emotional entanglements? Follow my four simple tips to help you become real with yourself:

1. Be Honest About The Way You Feel: This could be about the way you feel about a person (including yourself), a situation and/or experience. And accept the feelings and emotions that show up such as fear, grief, loss, hurt, etc. But don’t settle there. Take steps to bring about your restoration.

Please Let Me Be!

A note to all those who feel the need to tell me how to live, be, do, think...LET ME BE!

Let me be the woman I was created to be. You might not 'get' me or understand the rational behind what I do but that's ok. But please don't feel the need to change me into something I am not. Rather, make the effort to understand me. Better still; accept me the way I am. I'm not saying I have it all figured out or I'm any where near perfect but I'm a work in progress.

Take Charge Of Your Mind

Does it sometimes feel like your mind is calling the shots of your life? If so, take charge! Remember your attitudes, beliefs, and thoughts drive your behaviours. So if you have been 'acting up' of late, you may want reflect on what you allow into your mind and/or what you have permitted to settle in it. Next, give your mind a Detox. I practice this through praying, reading scripture and other 'wholesome' food along with other activities to nurture and develop my mind. Practice this regularly and you WILL see a change.

Want To Succeed With Your Goals? Work On The Inner You

Every year, millions of us start making plans to achieve our and/or professional goals. These may include landing a dream job, starting or building a business, buying a home, writing a book, embarking a training/professional programme, etc. However, if you are serious about making your goals/aspirations a success, I have a tip for you: Work on the inner you. Specifically, Get Rid Of Your Emotional Clutter!

Are Your Reservoirs Full?

Do you find yourself constantly sacrificing yourself for others, to your own detriment?
Are you drained from continuously 'doing' without the necessary investment to keep you going?

If you answered 'yes' to any of the above, my question to you is how long do you think you will last running on empty?

Honestly, life is not about constantly being ‘on the go’. It is about striking a healthy balance between what you ‘pour out’ and what you ‘pour back in’. As you pour out, you need to replace what you have become devoid of. Doing this helps you remain ‘fit for service’. Just the same way you will not drive your car on an empty gas tank, is the same way you ought to treat yourself.

It’s High Time For My Time!

Nowadays, we seem to be doing so much – all at the same time. Those around us are constantly demanding more of our time, efforts, and even our money. In return, we continue to yield even more. Being the resourceful creatures we are, we find ourselves wearing many hats such as wife/girlfriend, mummy, career/business woman, older/eldest sister, student, friend, counsellor, and much more – all at the same time. We just seem to keep pouring out.

It’s All In The Mind

Have you ever thought about the powerful correlation that exists between the state of ones mind and the level of success one accomplishes. Do you realise that harbouring unhealthy emotional traits can thwart all your good intentions to succeed? This is particularly important for those aiming for the top.

Three Myths That Can Sabotage Your Potential For Success

In recent years, I have been looking into the emotional challenges women face and how this affects our ability to succeed. I discovered the fact that a number of us embraced certain myths, which in the long term could have a negative impact on our emotional well-being. And when care is not taken to redress this, our potential to succeed could be dramatically affected.

Is It Time For A Beak?

Many of us (me included) rush around through life trying to accomplish our great dreams and goals. Day in, day out, we forge ahead at full speed despite the huge challenges and pressures we face (not forgetting the disappointments too!). Yet many of us don’t know when to apply the breaks. Before you know it, your effectiveness, productivity, capabilities, motivation, etc plummets.

Deal With Your F.E.A.R!

Have you ever started a project, dream or goal and but quit because of your fears? Maybe you had an idea but never got it off the ground because you thought it might not workout? Are you the type whose mind conjures 101 images of what could go wrong? Sounds like you may have been bitten by the FEAR bug?

Are You A Survivor?

I recently came across the lyrics of the song, “I am a survivor” by Destiny’s Child and it made me think. Whilst the song appears to be talking of a failed relationship, it can be applied to any challenging situation you may face (disappointment, loss, depression, ill-health, etc). For me, it was a wake up call to say, actually, I AM A SURVIVOR – through Gods grace and no strength of mine

Are You Suffering From Rejection?

Though we don’t like to admit this, many of us are suffering from the effects of rejection. You may find yourself saying, “well I just got on with life” but have you really? By the way, just because you have physically moved on is no indication that same has taken place emotionally, mentally, or spiritually.

Change The Rules And Make The Best Of The Rest Of Your Life

Is there a discrepancy between the life you live now and the life you dream of?Are you constantly frustrated by the way you have crafted your life?

If you answer ‘yes’ to any of the above, my question to you is what are you willing to do about it? Many of us crave change but do little or nothing to make the change a reality. Now let me put things into context here. Change does not have to be some huge life-changing activity (although it can include such goals). Nor does it have to take a great deal of effort to bring about the change. I often find that it is the little changes I make in my life that adds the most value.

Don’t Let The Credit Crunch Get You Down

When you mention the current economic climate, many of us tend to focus on its financial impact, our job security, and so on. However, the effects of the recession can be more far-reaching than this. If care is not taken, it can affect your emotional and mental wellbeing – a condition I am referring to as the ‘Recession Syndrome’.

And so, you may find yourself becoming depressed about your situation. You may display negative emotions (e.g. fear, anger, bitterness). You may even resort to ‘blocking out’ your circumstances through the use of food, alcohol, spending, etc. Simply put, you have now amassed emotional baggage of your own.

A New Year, A New You!

Being a new year, our resolution lists tend to feature the goals we want to accomplish. However, they rarely include (or prioritise) goals that focus on our own personal development. Working on our inner selves tends to take a back seat whilst we strive for what we, at times, consider to be more important or worthwhile. But without clearing out your old ‘junk’, how will you make room for the new? Moreover, what will your chances of success be with all the inner clutter you are carrying around? Sounds hard but it is worth a second thought.

Don’t Let Your Emotional Baggage Get In Your Way!

Many of us have our feet firmly planted on the treadmills of life – pursuing careers, building businesses, running homes, etc. Hence, our lives become so cluttered, we loose sight of the woman we have become. Rarely do we have adequate time (and space) to deal with what’s going on within us. And when you add to the equation the life challenges we face, it’s no surprise we become laden with emotional baggage (e.g. unresolved issues, negative emotions, unhealthy or inaccurate mindsets, etc). Rather than dealing with it, many of us opt to brush it aside and keep sprinting through life. After all, we have so much to do.

Tough But Powerful Questions To Ask Yourself

We all shy away from asking ourselves tough questions. Maybe because we are afraid of the answers. So we adopt common approaches that include burying our heads in the sand, wearing a mask and pretending like every thing is ok. But who are we kidding especially as we are falling apart at the seems? To hold ourselves together, we opt for temporary plasters (e.g. food, alcohol, money, sex, drugs). But all they do is cause further problems down the line.

Are You A Female Hybrid?

On our journeys in life, we at times experience challenges and/or situations that may result in hurt, pain, disappointment, grief and separation. As a result, you may find yourself emotionally battered, bruised and wounded. Coupled with the ‘stuff’ you may have been carrying from your yesteryears, it is possible you find yourself living as a mere shadow of the woman you once were. I call this woman a ‘female hybrid’.