Are You In Hiding? Forgive Others And Love Again

When you have been hurt by others, how do you react? Like many, you might say, ‘I just move on’. But the harsh reality for many is that they remain stuck. On the surface, they might look OK, but underneath lies a heart scored with deep, oozing wounds.

In a bid to stop the ‘hurter’ or potential ‘hurters’ wounding us, we construct barriers around ourselves. Then, when we look at life through the tinted lenses of our hurts, trusting people – and even God – becomes a real issue, even when they pose no threat to us. We bolt up the doors to our hearts and put up a sign that says: ‘No entry’.

Are You Becoming Allergic To Modern Life?

Strange question? Perhaps but could this be the reason why some of us are experiencing a conundrum of modern syndromes/unexplained illnesses such as chronic fatigue, various disorders (e.g. digestive, sleep, eating disorders), muscle aches/pains, etc? In recent years, these have left many doctors baffled. More so, us Christians especially as we fast, pray and bind the devil. But are we giving the enemy far too much credit when in fact we should be looking closer to home?

Who Says You Are Not Good Enough? A Reminder Of Who You Really Are

After a while of people telling you, “you are not good enough”, your confidence can get knocked, especially when you start to hear it time and time again. You may find you start to second guess yourself and self-doubt who you believe you are. But please be rest assured that greatness lies within you. Just because others can't see it or fail to appreciate it has nothing to do with the matter.

You Are Famous!

Do you sometimes feel like you are overlooked, that people tend to forget you exist? Perhaps that is making you feel down as no one seems to give two monkeys about you.

“I Don’t Have To!” Essential Words To Help You Live The Guilt-Free Life

- I don’t have to be the one to help out people, family or friends all the time because God has others lined up to use too!

- I don’t have to be the one to bail family and friends out all the time – just do what I know what God wants me to do and leave the rest. I am not God.

Five Commandments To Liberate All The Superwomen In The House

Take it from a former Superwoman, these are vital empowering tips that have changed my life. So just in case you find it difficult to say ‘no’, feel guilty when they do, want to be ‘all things to all men’ and even bend over backwards to please others despite the negative impact it has on your life, I dedicate this to you. So here goes:

Are You An Approval Junkie?

Do you find you are always wanting to please others or seek their approval? Maybe they have made you feel inadequate in the past and you are striving to live up to who they expect you to be? Or it could be you are seeking to get their attention or love because without it, you just don’t feel right? If that is the case, kindly pause for a moment.

What Are Your Real Needs?

Whilst you might real off a list of items like shoes, hand bags, clothes, gadgets, cars and the like, are these your REAL needs? The reality is that we have basic human needs such as having a sense of belonging, feeling loved, appreciated, esteemed, and feeling fulfilled. When we overlook these, they cause a gap or hole.

Stop Trying To Live Up To The Expectations Of Others

This morning in the gym, I attended a spin class. Despite attending spin classes for a while, it never seems to get any easier (gruelling but worth it). Anyhow, I was coming to the end of a particularly tough class with only 5 minutes to go of the 45-minute class. I had given the session everything I had and was now running out of steam. And so, I found myself slowing down. All of a sudden, I heard a voice shout out from behind me "only 34 miles per hour (mph)?". It was NOT God by the way! Apparently, one of my fellow classmates behind me thought my efforts were not good enough. And so he felt the need to share it with no only me be those nearby.

Who Do Men Say I Am? Rediscovering Your True Identity

Have you noticed how society seems to increasingly want to influence our God-given identities? We get labels tagged on our backs to describe our race, background, life experiences, gender, past mistakes, health, marital status, job situation, worth and much more. After a while, it’s like we end up being a collage of labels with the real person God created missing in action. Even us Kingdom folk (co-heirs to the Throne, might I add) get caught up in these pseudo-identities and start to living up to them.

Quick Tips To Promoting Your Emotional Wellbeing

1. Strive to make the following a reality in your life: Equilibrium, Harmony, Peace, Contentment, Pace, Time management.

 2. Try to avoid triggers that may affect your wellbeing e.g. Stress, pressure, over committing yourself, too much going on at the same time.

Quick Tips To Ditching Your Baggage

1. Uncover your ‘emotional baggage’ e.g. unresolved issues, negative emotions, unhealthy or inaccurate mindsets, etc.


2. Take action to bring about your emotional restoration and wellbeing:
 • God-help: Ask God to help you on your journey. Trust me, you will need His help to uncover, deal with any issues and embark your journey to wholeness.

Get Real With Yourself And Avoid Emotional Traps!

Want to avoid emotional entanglements? Follow my four simple tips to help you become real with yourself:

1. Be Honest About The Way You Feel: This could be about the way you feel about a person (including yourself), a situation and/or experience. And accept the feelings and emotions that show up such as fear, grief, loss, hurt, etc. But don’t settle there. Take steps to bring about your restoration.

Please Let Me Be!

A note to all those who feel the need to tell me how to live, be, do, think...LET ME BE!

Let me be the woman I was created to be. You might not 'get' me or understand the rational behind what I do but that's ok. But please don't feel the need to change me into something I am not. Rather, make the effort to understand me. Better still; accept me the way I am. I'm not saying I have it all figured out or I'm any where near perfect but I'm a work in progress.

Take Charge Of Your Mind

Does it sometimes feel like your mind is calling the shots of your life? If so, take charge! Remember your attitudes, beliefs, and thoughts drive your behaviours. So if you have been 'acting up' of late, you may want reflect on what you allow into your mind and/or what you have permitted to settle in it. Next, give your mind a Detox. I practice this through praying, reading scripture and other 'wholesome' food along with other activities to nurture and develop my mind. Practice this regularly and you WILL see a change.

Want To Succeed With Your Goals? Work On The Inner You

Every year, millions of us start making plans to achieve our and/or professional goals. These may include landing a dream job, starting or building a business, buying a home, writing a book, embarking a training/professional programme, etc. However, if you are serious about making your goals/aspirations a success, I have a tip for you: Work on the inner you. Specifically, Get Rid Of Your Emotional Clutter!

Are Your Reservoirs Full?

Do you find yourself constantly sacrificing yourself for others, to your own detriment?
Are you drained from continuously 'doing' without the necessary investment to keep you going?

If you answered 'yes' to any of the above, my question to you is how long do you think you will last running on empty?

Honestly, life is not about constantly being ‘on the go’. It is about striking a healthy balance between what you ‘pour out’ and what you ‘pour back in’. As you pour out, you need to replace what you have become devoid of. Doing this helps you remain ‘fit for service’. Just the same way you will not drive your car on an empty gas tank, is the same way you ought to treat yourself.

It’s High Time For My Time!

Nowadays, we seem to be doing so much – all at the same time. Those around us are constantly demanding more of our time, efforts, and even our money. In return, we continue to yield even more. Being the resourceful creatures we are, we find ourselves wearing many hats such as wife/girlfriend, mummy, career/business woman, older/eldest sister, student, friend, counsellor, and much more – all at the same time. We just seem to keep pouring out.

It’s All In The Mind

Have you ever thought about the powerful correlation that exists between the state of ones mind and the level of success one accomplishes. Do you realise that harbouring unhealthy emotional traits can thwart all your good intentions to succeed? This is particularly important for those aiming for the top.

Three Myths That Can Sabotage Your Potential For Success

In recent years, I have been looking into the emotional challenges women face and how this affects our ability to succeed. I discovered the fact that a number of us embraced certain myths, which in the long term could have a negative impact on our emotional well-being. And when care is not taken to redress this, our potential to succeed could be dramatically affected.